Tag: depression

Mental Health Shaming

Mental Health Shaming

Mental health shaming is a real thing, maybe you’ve been lucky enough to not experience it. Maybe you have and it made you even more closed off then you already were. For years I have been experiencing it from my family, friends, and sometimes even at the workplace. How do you explain to someone the reason you are having a moment is because of your mental illness without feeling some type of shame? 

“Why is she acting like that?” 

“Can’t she just get over it and have fun?”

“Stop being so sensitive and learn to toughen up”

“You are freaking out over what?”

“What do you mean you are too tired to go?”

“Some people have it worse than you, maybe you should think about that”

“Why don’t you ask your doctor for medication? It seems like you could really use it”

Creating a Character for my Anxiety and Depression

Creating a Character for my Anxiety and Depression

By the title of this post, you are probably wondering what the hell am I talking about right? Let me explain this a bit before you think that I am absolutely insane. Whenever my anxiety is building up or has just arrived (always at the worst possible time) I often say to my friends “that damn bitch is back.” Before I tend to curl up into a ball and sit on my floor for a few hours feeling like absolute crap because of my anxiety, I realize how crazy these thoughts are and poke fun of myself for thinking these absolutely irrational thoughts. 

My humor has gotten me through the best of times and the worst of times in my life. To give a movie reference, I am like Carrie Bradshaw cracking a small joke after Mr. Big didn’t show up to their wedding. 

“Oh honey, you cracked a joke! Good for you.” Samantha Jones thank you for one of my favorite statements for my anxiety and depression. 

Anxiety: Learning to just sit in it

Anxiety: Learning to just sit in it

My anxiety often can take over my day, my week, my month. Its exhausting to even recall when I’ve lived in those moments. You go to bed at night thinking “will this feeling still be here when I wake up?” and before you know it your alarm is going off and that feeling is still there. This is a battle that anyone with anxiety knows all too well. 

What I have learned to do over the years is to communicate how I feel in a sense where I’m giving someone an analogy to explain what mess is happening in my mind. Mental health is often brushed aside, your feelings are disputed and even those who you think would be there for you… are not.